The Number 1 Basic Need of a Woman is : AFFECTION. But you are not going to receive it willingly if you don't honour and respect your husband; as the church submits to Christ!
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Roles of Wife
by Ronnie Mutina
I know of a couple that has been married 52 years that are very dear people to me. He tells me that he can count on one hand the number of arguments they’ve had in those years. He didn’t say that they didn’t disagree, they just did not argue. I can honestly say that I have never seen them argue either. Their love for each other is genuine. Men love to use this scripture in Ephesians 5:22, but their reasons are wrong. As I said before in one of my Bible studies, if a man loves his wife as he is commanded to, then the rest will fall in place. This marriage has lasted this long, because they did not compromise on what God’s Word teaches. They were submissive to one another and therefore their love grew stronger. However, there are men and women out there that think their ways are better than God’s. However I would like to focus on the wife’s role that was designed by God. Women have thought that their ways are better than God’s ways ever since the serpent beguiled Eve.
Obeying God is what HIS Word teaches us to do. However, disobedience seems to be the downfall of many Christian families. Where does it start? Well it starts in the heart of each and every person. However, in our families today we see that marriage are failing terribly due to the lack of submission to each other. Paul gives direction to both the husbands and the wives in the book of Ephesians. In Ephesians 5:22 - 24, Paul starts on the subject of husbands and wives with this statement, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church; and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything."
Submission to God is really hard in anyone’s life. First of all, we need to know that everyone that submits to God has to put his or her pride down first. Ouch! We know that Solomon wrote, in Proverbs 6, that the Lord hates 6 things and yet 7 are an abomination. He comes right out and tells us that the Lord hates a proud look. If we look at the scripture throughout the Word of God, we find that pride was the downfall of not only mankind, but of Lucifer and one third of the angels. Today, we see pride in families more now than ever. Wives not wanting to be submissive, husbands not wanting to be leaders, and children not obeying their parents, because both parents are not being leaders in the household, and all are trying to justify their actions.
I wonder why Paul started off with wives first in this chapter? Could it be the fact, "ladies first?" I don’t believe that this is the reason that Paul started it off, but because God’s Word is inspired, this is the way God wanted it done. Churches today have long disregarded the full teaching of Scripture. Many believers find some of its truths to be unfamiliar and even hard to accept. And because the church has been so engulfed in, identified with, and victimized by worldly standards, God’s standards seem out – of – date, irrelevant, and offensive to modern mentalities. His way is so high and so contrary to the way of the world that it is incomprehensible to many in and out of the church. In other words, we think God’s ways are outdated. After all, we are on the earth, living in this world, not HIM. This mentality is sin. So, what do we see in these verses that is directed toward wives?
Paul is talking directly to the Christian wife, regardless of her social standing, education, intelligence, spiritual maturity or giftedness, age, experience, or any other consideration. Nor is it qualified by her husband’s intelligence, character, attitude, spiritual condition, or any other consideration. Paul say categorically to all believing wives; "Submit to your own husbands." Being submissive is a carry over from verse 21, which states, "Submitting yourselves one to another is the fear of God." For all of you Greek scholars out there, and I’m not one, the word is, ‘hupotasso,’ which means to relinquish one’s rights, and the Greek middle voice (used in vs. 21 and carried over by implication into vs. 22) emphasizes the willing of submitting of oneself. God’s command is to those who are to submit. That is, the submission is to be a voluntary response to God’s will in giving up one’s independent rights to other believers in general and to ordained authority in particular, which in this case is the wife’s own husband.
We are taught that men are to "love their wives, even as Christ loves HIS church." If men think wives are better placed beneath them, then they cannot love their wives the way Christ’s love his church. Marriage is not a 50 – 50 deal. It is 100 – 100 percent deal. Both spouses get out of their marriage exactly what they put into it. For a wife to be submissive to her own husband means that she is adapting to God’s Word. It means that she is being obedient to God. Submission in this text is submitting to her husband’s authority. In Genesis 3:16, the Lord told Eve, "thy desire shall be to thy husband and he will rule over thee." What does this mean? It means that the wife will submit to the man’s authority. Now this goes against the world’s teachings today. The world tells us that women are equals with men. They should have the exact same rights as a man does. God’s Word teaches us that women have a very important part in this society. In fact, the Lord gave the woman, in this case, Mary, the outright privilege of the Savior of this world being conceived by the seed of the women (Genesis 3:15). However, we need to know that a wife’s part is ordained of God, which states, "Wives should submit to their own husband’s" authority. Women have a sinful inclination to usurp man’s authority and men have a sinful inclination to put women under their feet. The divine decree that man would rule over woman in this way was part of God’s curse on humanity, and it takes a manifestation of grace in Christ by the filling of the Holy Spirit to restore the created order and harmony of proper submission in a relationship that has become corrupted and disordered by sin.
Eve was created from Adam’s rib and ordained to be his companion, to be, as Adam himself beautifully testified, "bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh." (Gen. 2:22-23). God’s curse did not change His basic plan of mutuality in the marriage relationship or for the functional authority of the husband over the wife. Man was created first and was created generally to be physically, constitutionally, and emotionally stronger than woman, who is "a weaker vessel" (1 Peter 3:7). Both before and after the fall and the consequent curse, man was called to be the provider, protector, guide, and shepherd of the family, and women called to be supportive and submissive. In Colossians 3:18, Paul wrote, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord." A wife being submissive to their husbands is in direct obedience to God. In 1 Peter 3:1, Peter said, "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives." Even if a wife is saved and her husband is not she is directed to be submissive to his authority. This speaks loud in testimony of obedience toward God and as Peter said that "The man may be won." However, this does not mean that if he is doing something wrong that you have to submit to his ways.
As I said earlier, marriage is a 100/100 percent deal. Men should be submissive to God and the wife should be submissive to her own husband. However, we need to understand that submission is a commandment from God. Despite what man thinks, in this world, God’s directive to us all is to ‘obey HIS statutes and commandment."
Marriages fail a great deal today. Usually the reason marriages fail is because the husbands and wives are not submissive to each other. Women take the stand that they are in control of things when it comes to the sexual part of their marriage and have, many times, used sex as a tool to get their husbands to do what they want them too. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul addresses the sexual content of the marriage and how that neither spouse is in control of their own bodies, but that their mates are. He said that one should not deny the other and if it should have to stop that it should be in agreement with both and that it should be a short period of time. This attitude of holding things over the spouse’s head is sin toward God. Men have the same problem of trying to get the wife to do what they want them to do. I agree, there are a lot of men out there who have failed miserably in taking leadership roles in the household. Instead of being leaders, which the wife really looks for, they are followers. Even in churches, men are refusing to lead their families by going to church with them. Instead the wives usually lead the spiritual part of the marriage. There are many reasons for divorce, but the underlying problems is the fact that one or both the spouses are not in submission one to another as God has ordained. God does not authorize confusion, but it is a tool that Satan uses on a regular basis. When we have our lives in order as God has ordained, it is then that marriages are successful and are full of happiness. However, as I have said before, if you get the triangle out, put God at the top, women on the left, men on the right, and as they both grow closer to God they also grow closer to each other and their marriage becomes stronger.
A good example of submission is the fact that instead of showing your spouse where they are wrong and gloating about it, work together to over come mistakes. Allow God to direct your paths together and seek HIS wisdom, which HE freely gives (James 1:5). Wives, submission to your husband’s authority, which God gave him, is submission to God’s authority. Doing what God has told us leads into a happier and more fulfilling life.
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